It’s been said, many times, many ways – I’ve seen 500 Days of Summer at least 500 times. I’m absolutely completely in love with this movie, even at my most bitterest moments. Since maturing from my Cera obsession, I’ve quickly grown strongly fond of Joseph Gordon-Levitt. I’ve seen him in person and he’s such a dreamboat. He’s said to be the “Smart Girl’s Hottie.” I’d bite. Of course, this film also features Zooey Deschanel, and well, who doesn’t love her?
There’s something magical about nabbing the person you want. Yes, I said magical. Especially if you’ve been admiring from a distance. A little pep in your step, the good glow. Hell, even waking up in the morning feels better. But, let’s skip the mush and get down to the nitty gritty. Unless you missed it, Summer clearly says she wants something casual. Tom agrees with her. Do we believe it? Nope. Does he believe it? Nope. Maybe we’d save ourselves a lot of pain if we were just honest with ourselves in the beginning.
I read an article about women called “Why You Aren’t Married.” It’s an interesting aspect because it’s a woman who’s been married at least three times telling other women why they don’t have a ring on their finger. One reason is because we’re lying to ourselves. Well, ain’t that some shit? Now, you’re telling yourself you don’t lie and you’re perfectly honest. Okay. Sure. I’ve fallen victim one too many times of my own lies. He says “casual,” you think “relationship,” you say “casual.” You basically convince yourself that all you really wanted was a physical relationship because it’s so much easier than getting emotional. Right? Because you don’t like how messy relationships are and you’re so busy that you don’t even need one. But, everyone knows about this “secret” dude and your “casual” relationship. The guy you just go over and hang out with. Then you miss him but you’re trying to be cool about it because he’s not serious enough to see your crazy yet. Even the little things tend to seem like significant milestones in your relationship. “Aw, he just texted me if I wanted beer!’ Yeah. Stop lying to yourself. You know you want a relationship, be clear. I know, easier said than done. I could definitely benefit from taking this advice.
Baby steps, right? We can all gain something by learning how we get ourselves into the (sometimes) shitty situations.
Tom: Look, we don’t have to put a label on it. That’s fine. I get it. But, you know, I just… I need some consistency.
Summer: I know.
Tom: I need to know that you’re not gonna wake up in the morning and feel differently.
Summer: And I can’t give you that. Nobody can.