Category Archives: Break ups

Day 142: The Way We Were

The Way We Were w/ Barbara Streisand & Robert Redford

It’s a familiar story of love, one that is easily recognizable, yet hard to look back on. With a soundtrack from Streisand, it’s difficult not to get a little choked up when watching The Way We Were. Relationships are a complicated thing, but it’s even more complicated when the truth alone is accepted and embraced. Yes, they were socially opposite, but their intentions of love were the same. But over time, they grew, and they grew apart.

He was the best he could be for her when they were together. An often sad but practical viewpoint of life and relationships. Really, that’s all you could ask for. The point of relationships is to grow individually. Your other person should compliment your life, even if that means for temporary. Katie and Hubbell meet in college, an all too familiar setting of transitional phases of life – a breeding ground of insecurity, security and hope. Relationships are a nurturing ground for us to experiments different parts of our lives. I believe that things happen for a reason even in the most darkest of times. Especially romantic relationships. Katie helplessly falls in love but is too independent for Hubbell to handle. But even with that, their romance seems to trek them through the years until they reach a setting conclusion that they were content with the way they were (get it?!).

On to other matters, this project is ending literally tomorrow. CAN WE SAY WHATTTT?!?!!?!?

Hubbell Gardner: When you love someone, from Roosevelt to me, you go deaf, dumb and blind.

 

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Day 133: XX/XY

XX/XY w/ Mark Ruffalo

Oh boy. Boys and girls never seem to just get along no matter how adult we think we are.

Thanks for reinstating the notion that my twenties are going to a hotbed of unrequited emotional turbulence. Awesome.

Side note: I’m a sucker for Mark Ruffalo but this was even more ridiculous than I expected.

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Day 127: The Break-Up

The Break-Up w/ Jennifer Aniston & Vince Vaughn

Poor Jennifer Aniston. She just can’t seem to win. Well, I don’t think having Vince Vaughn is winning either.

Anyways, break ups are always horrible. I don’t think there are any existing clean slates. I remember voluntarily crying myself to sleep alone in the dark. And that was in high school! Shit gets pretty depressing. Shit is especially even more depressing when it’s never on your own terms. Mind games come back again at this stage which makes the recovery even more difficult. I’m always a complete hot mess when it comes to love. I would be that girl that look like she hasn’t slept in days when her heart is broken. It never makes any sense how things ever end but they do. There are some relationships where I still don’t know why we ended, others are crystal clear. Was it for the better? Sure. Surely I wouldn’t be where I am today if those relationships had continued, but who’s to say. My own individual goals could differ from our relationship goals.

Emotions take such a toll on your mind when you’re ending a relationship. It’s all you think about whether you like it or not. We find things/people to distract ourselves but in the very end, it still hurts like hell. Playing the bitch doesn’t work either, trust me.

But sometime’s you just gotta prevail and not surrender in doing what’s right for yourself, even if it means forsaking a bit of your happiness in the moment.

Gary: I’m just saying we shouldn’t wait so long the next time before we…
Brooke: Yeah.
Gary: Catch up.
Brooke: We have a lot more to talk about.
Gary: Yeah.
Brooke: So.
Gary: Be good.
Brooke: Okay.
Gary: Bye.
Brooke: Bye.

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Day 124: The Wedding Singer

The Wedding Singer w/ Adam Sandler & Drew Barrymore

I don’t care how stupid Adam Sandler is most of the time, he’s the ultimate schmuck worth falling for.

The most note worthy piece of advice I’ve ever heard about love is to find someone who loves you more than you love them. What’s strange is that it seems like an open invitation to someone’s feeling being hurt, but in reality, it doesn’t. It’s a weird paradox, finding someone that loves you more so you don’t get hurt. But thinking about it conversely, would the other person feel like you love them more than they love you? Tricky.

BUT.

I love hard. I love fully. I am not one to hold back especially when I’m sure. A lot of it’s naivety, but a lot of it is because I believe in loving unconditionally. I don’t want to know that he loves me more than I love him.  Why must the glass always be half filled when we can share the damn pitcher?

It always gets me when Robbie sings to Julia.

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Day 119: Bridget Jones’s Diary

Bridget Jones's Diary w/ Renee Zellweger

If I ever breach this brand of singleness before I’m thirty, please slap the silly out of me.

 

 

 

 

 

Daniel Cleaver: Come on Bridget, we belong together – you, me, poor little skirt. If I can’t make it with you then I can’t make it with anyone.
Bridget: That’s not a good enough offer for me.

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Day 114: Love Jones

Love Jones w/ Nia Long and Larenz Tate

What happens after the attraction? This is a key element that drives the main characters in Love Jones. Darius and Nina, both devoted to the arts, meet in harmony in a bluesy-jazz poetry bar. While we expect them to fall in love immediately, we get that this isn’t the right time. They’re just “kicking it.” Kicking it takes the back seat as both figure out wherein lies their attraction and the rest of their lives. They’re both struggling artists in their craft, forcefully putting themselves first before anything. A premise, I can only solely relate. But their strong attraction toward each other leads them into this journey of discovery about each other. Is it fate riddled with bouts of doubts? Darius goes on the verge of saying Nina might be the one, despite her leaving to New York City to handle “unfinished business”. The story takes the normal and unfortunate familiar route of life:  such as “Where is this going?” talk, the “I’m cool because we’re just friends” talk, the I’m going to bring my new date to the place I know you’re at, and let’s not forget “I miss you and I just want to see how you’re doing.” Quite familiar roads in any relationship, each stop either made out of helplessness or because we’re plain stupidly in love. But one point is clearly made, the “jones” need to survive to make the relationship work. Jones/love all mean there is potential in one another, hence why we work hard to make things go well.  Continue reading

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Day 107: Twilight

Twlight w/ Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson

What. The. Fuck. I want my two hours back and I can’t believe I watched this fuckery. I get it, he bedazzles and she’s in dire need of some adoration and affection, this doesn’t change he’s still creepy as fuck (clearly, pardon my “fucks”).

I’ve literally dreaded this very moment where I needed to watch this film. Was I hoping for some enlightenment? Perhaps, but I should’ve known better. Forgive me, but I almost wanted to like it because of all the hype surrounding this. My friends have tormented me film after film about their awkwardly but fascinating obsession over this damned series. Grown ass women have literally drooled over the mere description of Edward. But for real though, like that bad? Like really? THAT BAD.

If it wasn’t clear before, it sure as hell clear now. I’m completely hating, on that Haterade without a doubt.

And now I need to watch New Moon. Insanity completely out the door.

James: Oh, still stubborn, aren’t we? Is that what makes you so special to Edward?

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Day 104: Love Actually

Love Actually w/ Actually Good Cast

“Love is actually all around.” It sure is, and sometimes it’s depressing. It’s been equally hard maintaing any type of romantic relationship while in this midst of project. I’ve equally set up unrealistic expectations from these movies and some of my own. But, in the process, I’ve learned so much as a woman who deserves a good relationship.

Tips to the girl who has been broken-hearted one too many times. It’s okay to want a relationship. It’s okay to be the cool girl. So, it’s okay to be the cool girl who wants a relationship. I know the type of a woman I am. I know what I deserve. I’m the type of girl that doesn’t need your attention desperately, but needs you to pay attention. I don’t need to be wine and dined all the time, but consideration into a good night never hurts. More importantly, I want to be in love. And being in love doesn’t change the type of woman I am, if anything, it makes me better. I’ve been afraid to admit I’m the cool girl who wants a relationship. I’ve been great at playing cool to the ubiquitous “new guy,” but eventually I always want more. In turn, that’s where being cool backfires.

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Day 103: Secrets to Love

Secrets to Love w/ Traci Donahue

What’s worse than watching a fictionalized adaption about a happily ever after? Watching real people talk about their happily ever after. That one makes you feel like shit even more.

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Day 101: Conversations with Other Women

Conversations with Other Women w/ Helena Bonham Carter & Aaron Eckhart

“It’s so fucking hard to be happy.” The veil of loneliness often leaves us to surrender our true feeling of our situations. Whether we’re married or single, we’re always a bit lonely. That’s what brings these two characters together – loneliness and a good a night of fucking. We’re weary of their relationship, but the film clearly indicates they’ve had a past. The entire film is shot in spilt screen, each side representing respectively the man and the woman. Each character is intertwined with a past at home, she’s married, he’s in a relationship. Both seemed unabashed of each other’s relationship, but each with the clear intention of where it would all end, in the bedroom. Each questions the details of their intentions, whether it was contrived by physically loneliness or emotional loneliness, but each rendered useless because in the end, they were each other’s past. A former ghost of what they had, each seeking a sense of closure to it all. He wanted her back, she wanted to know she made the right decision in leaving him. Their rendezvous ended with more questions than answers.  Continue reading

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