Category Archives: Losing love

Day 142: The Way We Were

The Way We Were w/ Barbara Streisand & Robert Redford

It’s a familiar story of love, one that is easily recognizable, yet hard to look back on. With a soundtrack from Streisand, it’s difficult not to get a little choked up when watching The Way We Were. Relationships are a complicated thing, but it’s even more complicated when the truth alone is accepted and embraced. Yes, they were socially opposite, but their intentions of love were the same. But over time, they grew, and they grew apart.

He was the best he could be for her when they were together. An often sad but practical viewpoint of life and relationships. Really, that’s all you could ask for. The point of relationships is to grow individually. Your other person should compliment your life, even if that means for temporary. Katie and Hubbell meet in college, an all too familiar setting of transitional phases of life – a breeding ground of insecurity, security and hope. Relationships are a nurturing ground for us to experiments different parts of our lives. I believe that things happen for a reason even in the most darkest of times. Especially romantic relationships. Katie helplessly falls in love but is too independent for Hubbell to handle. But even with that, their romance seems to trek them through the years until they reach a setting conclusion that they were content with the way they were (get it?!).

On to other matters, this project is ending literally tomorrow. CAN WE SAY WHATTTT?!?!!?!?

Hubbell Gardner: When you love someone, from Roosevelt to me, you go deaf, dumb and blind.

 

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Day 130: Sweet November

Sweet November w/ Keanu Reeves & Charlize Theron

Have you started to see a movie that you knew was bad right when it started, but you couldn’t stop because by that time you were in too deep? Yeah, that’s what it was like watching this movie.

I think I was reeled in because it said that Keanu Reeves played an advertising executive. What ad executive has 7 different channels play all day in an attempt to find inspiration? Tell me, who? I get the workaholic routine, but really? And you would let some psycho bitch come into your life that easily? If some hobo was sitting on my Benz, chilling, she would for sure get a beat down. No questions asked.

I mean the movie in theory is pretty sweet. She wanted to change his life because her’s was ending. Sweet, right? It was a bit sad that she wanted to disappear completely so he wouldn’t see her die. But still, a bit more consideration should’ve been there. He loved after all. Kind’ve selfish if you really think about it.

It was a bit painful to watch, mostly because it seemed a bit contrived with a trite script. Oh well, can’t win them all.

 

Sara: What are you doing?
Nelson Moss: Buying redemption.
Sara: Redemption’s not for sale today.

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Day 128: Arthur

Arthur w/ Dudley Moore & Liza Minnelli

Liza Minnelli is absolutely wonderful in this film. Boys suck. Rich boys with egos suck. What’s worse is if you actually like one. I wouldn’t know but I’m assuming there goes a decent amount of pressure.

You actually feel bad for Arthur. It’s the making of a good woman with good ambitions that make him realize he doesn’t want to marry the other woman. He actually grows up in the face of adulthood. Sacrifice should never be forced but welcomed with the promise that a better life awaits. In matters of life and love, the choices we make determine what kind of person we want to be. Obviously, these bits of truth are anything but new. In love, those choices are often veiled under confusion and miscommunication, so it’s only promising that we often make bad choices in love. Being blinded in love almost always happens to everyone. No one is ever smartly in love. Am I right?

Anyways, the remake of Arthur with Russell Brand seems incomparable. Completely doesn’t do it justice.

[about Hobson after she gives her phone number to Arthur]
Linda: Wouldn’t it be funny if *he* called me?
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Day 122: Mystic Pizza

Mystic Pizza w/ Julia Roberts...and etc.

It’s Julia Roberts! Shocker!

I can’t help but relate with the sisters – to fall in love and get the hell out of a small town. Although, I wouldn’t consider where I live a small town, but small enough to see people from high school still. I often daydream the hell out of my future. Nowhere in my future does it say me being whisked away and living in San Jose. No thanks. My ubiquitous white fence is replaced with city lights and a window. The happy husband making the daily bread is replaced with me making my own bacon and possibly raising a family. My idea of the future doesn’t correlate with suburbia, not even in the slightest form. I’m not quite sure what made me not want that, but it somehow formed away.

Anyways, this movie made me have an incredible craving for pizza.

Bill: [to Jojo] I’m tellin you I LOVE YOU, and all you love is my *dick*! Do you know how that makes me feel?

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Day 118: Ira and Abby

Ira & Abby w/ Chris Messina & Jennifer Westfeldt

Psychology major studying to be a psychologist, albeit he has major issues and so does the woman he spontaneously decides to marry. Let’s not forget his parents are therapists as well. They rationalized their whim of a marriage because they figured everyone else who’s done it the right way ends in divorce anyways. Throughout the movie, we see different perspectives of the ultimate marriage. We see Ira’s parents, a marriage blossomed because of an unexpected pregnancy. His parents ultimately agreed that “you learn to love because you’re hinged together.” They married for Ira. Which to some extent seems to be the reason for the many marriages we see today. We this marriage and its juxtaposition to Abby’s parents’ marriage, a seemingly happy marriage. But of course, there’s a catch.

The idea and convention of marriage seems to continue to tarnish over time for me. I’m not doubting the belief that two people can stay in love for years on end, but I doubt the belief that marriage is going to keep that. We’re all groomed to think that the next logical step in our lives is to marry someone we love. But being married doesn’t solidify anything aside from having a great party. Can we start blaming ourselves that we’ve fallen into some hypocrisy of how things are supposed to be. Because the reality is nothing is what it’s supposed to be. Not then and not now. I often wonder about happily married couples. I’m sure there are some, but none that I can instantly look up to. I would venture even to say my parents’ marriage isn’t exactly what I interpret happiness to look like. Continue reading

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Day 117: Practical Magic

Practical Magic w/ Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman

This just proves that you don’t mess with women who have power, both in the literal and metaphorical sense. Yes, women sure can be crazy, but let’s be real, their instincts on many a man have been more true than wrong.

I used to think women’s instincts were just a fallacy. You know, like love. But, I’ve seen it more than once, including my own, when a woman’s gut instinct is spot on. It’s actually pretty scary. Just to know something isn’t right and within minutes prove that theory. My mom has it and I know I sure have it. But instincts are clearly different than assumptions. Let’s be clear on those distinctions. Assumptions all the time are just insecurities reflected through poorly made decisions.

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Day 114: Love Jones

Love Jones w/ Nia Long and Larenz Tate

What happens after the attraction? This is a key element that drives the main characters in Love Jones. Darius and Nina, both devoted to the arts, meet in harmony in a bluesy-jazz poetry bar. While we expect them to fall in love immediately, we get that this isn’t the right time. They’re just “kicking it.” Kicking it takes the back seat as both figure out wherein lies their attraction and the rest of their lives. They’re both struggling artists in their craft, forcefully putting themselves first before anything. A premise, I can only solely relate. But their strong attraction toward each other leads them into this journey of discovery about each other. Is it fate riddled with bouts of doubts? Darius goes on the verge of saying Nina might be the one, despite her leaving to New York City to handle “unfinished business”. The story takes the normal and unfortunate familiar route of life:  such as “Where is this going?” talk, the “I’m cool because we’re just friends” talk, the I’m going to bring my new date to the place I know you’re at, and let’s not forget “I miss you and I just want to see how you’re doing.” Quite familiar roads in any relationship, each stop either made out of helplessness or because we’re plain stupidly in love. But one point is clearly made, the “jones” need to survive to make the relationship work. Jones/love all mean there is potential in one another, hence why we work hard to make things go well.  Continue reading

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Day 107: Twilight

Twlight w/ Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson

What. The. Fuck. I want my two hours back and I can’t believe I watched this fuckery. I get it, he bedazzles and she’s in dire need of some adoration and affection, this doesn’t change he’s still creepy as fuck (clearly, pardon my “fucks”).

I’ve literally dreaded this very moment where I needed to watch this film. Was I hoping for some enlightenment? Perhaps, but I should’ve known better. Forgive me, but I almost wanted to like it because of all the hype surrounding this. My friends have tormented me film after film about their awkwardly but fascinating obsession over this damned series. Grown ass women have literally drooled over the mere description of Edward. But for real though, like that bad? Like really? THAT BAD.

If it wasn’t clear before, it sure as hell clear now. I’m completely hating, on that Haterade without a doubt.

And now I need to watch New Moon. Insanity completely out the door.

James: Oh, still stubborn, aren’t we? Is that what makes you so special to Edward?

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Day 104: Love Actually

Love Actually w/ Actually Good Cast

“Love is actually all around.” It sure is, and sometimes it’s depressing. It’s been equally hard maintaing any type of romantic relationship while in this midst of project. I’ve equally set up unrealistic expectations from these movies and some of my own. But, in the process, I’ve learned so much as a woman who deserves a good relationship.

Tips to the girl who has been broken-hearted one too many times. It’s okay to want a relationship. It’s okay to be the cool girl. So, it’s okay to be the cool girl who wants a relationship. I know the type of a woman I am. I know what I deserve. I’m the type of girl that doesn’t need your attention desperately, but needs you to pay attention. I don’t need to be wine and dined all the time, but consideration into a good night never hurts. More importantly, I want to be in love. And being in love doesn’t change the type of woman I am, if anything, it makes me better. I’ve been afraid to admit I’m the cool girl who wants a relationship. I’ve been great at playing cool to the ubiquitous “new guy,” but eventually I always want more. In turn, that’s where being cool backfires.

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Day 101: Conversations with Other Women

Conversations with Other Women w/ Helena Bonham Carter & Aaron Eckhart

“It’s so fucking hard to be happy.” The veil of loneliness often leaves us to surrender our true feeling of our situations. Whether we’re married or single, we’re always a bit lonely. That’s what brings these two characters together – loneliness and a good a night of fucking. We’re weary of their relationship, but the film clearly indicates they’ve had a past. The entire film is shot in spilt screen, each side representing respectively the man and the woman. Each character is intertwined with a past at home, she’s married, he’s in a relationship. Both seemed unabashed of each other’s relationship, but each with the clear intention of where it would all end, in the bedroom. Each questions the details of their intentions, whether it was contrived by physically loneliness or emotional loneliness, but each rendered useless because in the end, they were each other’s past. A former ghost of what they had, each seeking a sense of closure to it all. He wanted her back, she wanted to know she made the right decision in leaving him. Their rendezvous ended with more questions than answers.  Continue reading

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