Category Archives: Love

Day 124: The Wedding Singer

The Wedding Singer w/ Adam Sandler & Drew Barrymore

I don’t care how stupid Adam Sandler is most of the time, he’s the ultimate schmuck worth falling for.

The most note worthy piece of advice I’ve ever heard about love is to find someone who loves you more than you love them. What’s strange is that it seems like an open invitation to someone’s feeling being hurt, but in reality, it doesn’t. It’s a weird paradox, finding someone that loves you more so you don’t get hurt. But thinking about it conversely, would the other person feel like you love them more than they love you? Tricky.

BUT.

I love hard. I love fully. I am not one to hold back especially when I’m sure. A lot of it’s naivety, but a lot of it is because I believe in loving unconditionally. I don’t want to know that he loves me more than I love him.  Why must the glass always be half filled when we can share the damn pitcher?

It always gets me when Robbie sings to Julia.

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Day 122: Mystic Pizza

Mystic Pizza w/ Julia Roberts...and etc.

It’s Julia Roberts! Shocker!

I can’t help but relate with the sisters – to fall in love and get the hell out of a small town. Although, I wouldn’t consider where I live a small town, but small enough to see people from high school still. I often daydream the hell out of my future. Nowhere in my future does it say me being whisked away and living in San Jose. No thanks. My ubiquitous white fence is replaced with city lights and a window. The happy husband making the daily bread is replaced with me making my own bacon and possibly raising a family. My idea of the future doesn’t correlate with suburbia, not even in the slightest form. I’m not quite sure what made me not want that, but it somehow formed away.

Anyways, this movie made me have an incredible craving for pizza.

Bill: [to Jojo] I’m tellin you I LOVE YOU, and all you love is my *dick*! Do you know how that makes me feel?

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Day 120: Grosse Pointe Blank

Grosse Pointe Blank w/ John Cusack & Minnie Driver

Another Cusack winner. Awesome hair this time. I actually really like Grosse Pointe Blank, granted that Cusack plays a depressed hit man. You know, all the makings of a perfect lover. But in essence, Cusack brings to Martin a sense of humanity and morale despite being in an occupation that ends both. Love becomes a motivating factor to change for the better, Martin’s last salvation to gain a heart.

Toward the end of the movie, Martin confesses to Debi that he was ready for the commitment and that all along, he was always just afraid. Classic “boy turns into man” route, hell classic “everyone” route. Commitment in general seems like an on-going issue when it comes to couples. Is it really hard to be solely devoted to one person? I guess so. We attribute so many different factors to explain wandering eyes, but at the end of the day, shouldn’t we be able that our eyes are only transfixed for one person? But then there’s that volatile time in everyone’s life where we need to figure out what we need before we settle. In Martin’s case, he decided working for the CIA and then running his own business of death seemed like the operative answer. I’m assuming that isn’t like everyone’s case. It always makes me wonder what makes people just know immediately that this is worth fighting for despite all other odds.

Marty: I’m sorry if I fucked up your life.
Debi: It’s not over yet.

 

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Day 119: Bridget Jones’s Diary

Bridget Jones's Diary w/ Renee Zellweger

If I ever breach this brand of singleness before I’m thirty, please slap the silly out of me.

 

 

 

 

 

Daniel Cleaver: Come on Bridget, we belong together – you, me, poor little skirt. If I can’t make it with you then I can’t make it with anyone.
Bridget: That’s not a good enough offer for me.

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Day 118: Ira and Abby

Ira & Abby w/ Chris Messina & Jennifer Westfeldt

Psychology major studying to be a psychologist, albeit he has major issues and so does the woman he spontaneously decides to marry. Let’s not forget his parents are therapists as well. They rationalized their whim of a marriage because they figured everyone else who’s done it the right way ends in divorce anyways. Throughout the movie, we see different perspectives of the ultimate marriage. We see Ira’s parents, a marriage blossomed because of an unexpected pregnancy. His parents ultimately agreed that “you learn to love because you’re hinged together.” They married for Ira. Which to some extent seems to be the reason for the many marriages we see today. We this marriage and its juxtaposition to Abby’s parents’ marriage, a seemingly happy marriage. But of course, there’s a catch.

The idea and convention of marriage seems to continue to tarnish over time for me. I’m not doubting the belief that two people can stay in love for years on end, but I doubt the belief that marriage is going to keep that. We’re all groomed to think that the next logical step in our lives is to marry someone we love. But being married doesn’t solidify anything aside from having a great party. Can we start blaming ourselves that we’ve fallen into some hypocrisy of how things are supposed to be. Because the reality is nothing is what it’s supposed to be. Not then and not now. I often wonder about happily married couples. I’m sure there are some, but none that I can instantly look up to. I would venture even to say my parents’ marriage isn’t exactly what I interpret happiness to look like. Continue reading

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Day 117: Practical Magic

Practical Magic w/ Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman

This just proves that you don’t mess with women who have power, both in the literal and metaphorical sense. Yes, women sure can be crazy, but let’s be real, their instincts on many a man have been more true than wrong.

I used to think women’s instincts were just a fallacy. You know, like love. But, I’ve seen it more than once, including my own, when a woman’s gut instinct is spot on. It’s actually pretty scary. Just to know something isn’t right and within minutes prove that theory. My mom has it and I know I sure have it. But instincts are clearly different than assumptions. Let’s be clear on those distinctions. Assumptions all the time are just insecurities reflected through poorly made decisions.

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Day 116: Listen to Your Heart

Listen to Your Heart w/ Cybil Shepard

Musician falls in love with a deaf girl. That’s cute.

Day 114: Love Jones

Love Jones w/ Nia Long and Larenz Tate

What happens after the attraction? This is a key element that drives the main characters in Love Jones. Darius and Nina, both devoted to the arts, meet in harmony in a bluesy-jazz poetry bar. While we expect them to fall in love immediately, we get that this isn’t the right time. They’re just “kicking it.” Kicking it takes the back seat as both figure out wherein lies their attraction and the rest of their lives. They’re both struggling artists in their craft, forcefully putting themselves first before anything. A premise, I can only solely relate. But their strong attraction toward each other leads them into this journey of discovery about each other. Is it fate riddled with bouts of doubts? Darius goes on the verge of saying Nina might be the one, despite her leaving to New York City to handle “unfinished business”. The story takes the normal and unfortunate familiar route of life:  such as “Where is this going?” talk, the “I’m cool because we’re just friends” talk, the I’m going to bring my new date to the place I know you’re at, and let’s not forget “I miss you and I just want to see how you’re doing.” Quite familiar roads in any relationship, each stop either made out of helplessness or because we’re plain stupidly in love. But one point is clearly made, the “jones” need to survive to make the relationship work. Jones/love all mean there is potential in one another, hence why we work hard to make things go well.  Continue reading

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Day 112: Sylvia

Sylvia w/ Gwyneth Paltrow & Daniel Craig

This is pretty depressing despite being a bit lackluster. Paltrow delivers a decent performance, but the plot line and the overall story lacks so much. It’s hard to pinpoint when it starts to fail, but it does. We watch the development of Hughes and Plath’s relationship in the earlier years, and we see show jovial she is. Yet, shifts in her life lead her to her unfortunate suicide. Falling in love is definitely not for the weary. It’s heavy on your soul and state of mind. We could only be so fortunate to have someone who brings us joy.

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Day 109: Save the Last Dance

Save the Last Dance w/ Julia Stiles & Sean Patrick Thomas

I don’t know how, but the thought of watching Eclipse literally felt like pain. So I opted out and vowed to return to it the next day. I wanted to watch something I thought was fun and a good blast from the past. Save the Last Dance was my perspective of MTV’s last attempt in trying to be actually cool. I thought Julia Stiles was so bad, being the quintessential white girl entering a whole new world filled with amazing hip hop music and dancing. Clearly following the dance movie formula, the movie was an easy hit for me. Oh man, Sean Patrick Thomas is so damn fine. Smart and smooth, pleassseeee get me a fan! Plus, can we be real here…music is so on point in this film. Making me sway side to side and practicing my hip curls.

Anyways, passion and ambition makes life and love better in my opinion. There’s nothing more attractive than being in a relationship with someone who is just as ambitious as you are. I’m a very ambitious girl, I got aspirations to the sky and I want nothing less for someone I date.

Obviously, when I got ambitious on my name tag, I’m clearly thinking of Wale’s “Ambitious Girl.”

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