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Day 142: The Way We Were

The Way We Were w/ Barbara Streisand & Robert Redford

It’s a familiar story of love, one that is easily recognizable, yet hard to look back on. With a soundtrack from Streisand, it’s difficult not to get a little choked up when watching The Way We Were. Relationships are a complicated thing, but it’s even more complicated when the truth alone is accepted and embraced. Yes, they were socially opposite, but their intentions of love were the same. But over time, they grew, and they grew apart.

He was the best he could be for her when they were together. An often sad but practical viewpoint of life and relationships. Really, that’s all you could ask for. The point of relationships is to grow individually. Your other person should compliment your life, even if that means for temporary. Katie and Hubbell meet in college, an all too familiar setting of transitional phases of life – a breeding ground of insecurity, security and hope. Relationships are a nurturing ground for us to experiments different parts of our lives. I believe that things happen for a reason even in the most darkest of times. Especially romantic relationships. Katie helplessly falls in love but is too independent for Hubbell to handle. But even with that, their romance seems to trek them through the years until they reach a setting conclusion that they were content with the way they were (get it?!).

On to other matters, this project is ending literally tomorrow. CAN WE SAY WHATTTT?!?!!?!?

Hubbell Gardner: When you love someone, from Roosevelt to me, you go deaf, dumb and blind.

 

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Day 137: The Seven Year Itch

The Seven Year Itch w/ Marilyn Monroe & Tom Ewell

The ubiquitous primal male urge, especially one whose wife is out for the summer, becomes the driving attraction in The Seven Year Itch. Oh yeah, and Marilyn Monroe too. Richard Sherman, played by Tom Ewell, is under the impression that an infidelity would occur on the premise that since his marriage has reached its seven years, his “itch” for other women, especially the Girl upstairs, is finally tested. Will he scratch it? In the film, no such thing occurs. While his fantasies get a bit rowdy, Sherman ends each sentiment lonely and empty-handed. Good for his wife?

Do I buy that romance may slip away momentarily in couples, sure I do. Do I think the seven year itch actually happens? Probably not. I’ve heard about the two-year hump, but a seven year itch seems like a stretch. No man’s an island, and I don’t think any amount of time would determine if a person is necessarily waned into committing adultery. After all, Sherman’s wife is in Maine. That already screams trouble for their marriage.  Luckily, Sherman is completely paranoid, which counters his wild imagination, and becomes deathly afraid of his wife discovering his less than satisfactory  thoughts about the Girl upstairs. Yeah, I’m sure his paranoia just saved him a marriage.

To be honest, Monroe’s overall performance is a bit lacking. While we can’t deny her presence in the film, her vent scene was the only thing worth getting excited for. Definitely wasn’t a groundbreaking performance by any means. But that’s okay, it’s Marilyn.

The Girl: You’re married. I KNEW it! You LOOK married.

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Day 136: Anatasia

Anastasia w/ Meg Ryan & John Cusack

I knew after watching My Fair Lady, I found similarities to Anastasia. I love this animated film! Go figure it has Meg Ryan and John Cusack as the voices of Dimitri and Anastasia.

Side note: I remember being in high school and making the bet that Anastasia was a Disney film, clearly I was mistaken. But just some random trivia, Anastasia became the highest-grossing non-Disney animated film in 1997.

 

Don’t lie, you know you imagined yourself some lost grand duchess of Russia hoping to be discovered.

 

Dimitri: If we live through this, remind me to thank you.

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Day 134: Bride Wars

Bride Wars w/ Anne Hathaway & Kate Hudson

Maybe it’s because I’ll always love Anne Hathaway, but I actually decided to watch this ridiculous romantic comedy. In some weird way, it clearly depicted how deranged we are as society to embark on crazy antics in hopes of a “perfect” day.

Wedding days should be a culmination of both work and love. Because it does indeed take time and effort. But it should take on the extreme measures as these ladies have chosen to make it the best. The wedding is the party, but the planning and effort should be focused on the relationship primarily.

Weddings are no doubt beautiful. I’ve spent many hours imagining how my wedding would be. Sadly, I can provide swatches immediately if needed. But then I start to think it all really depends on the type of love and relationship I foster with my significant partner that would really describe and make the wedding even more special. My parents didn’t have a grand wedding, a nice ceremony with friends and family. I was the flower girl, a weird feeling in retrospect. Weddings should never be a competition, but rather a celebration of all things merry.

I will admit though, I’ll probably be a bridezilla with my wedding planning. I feel sorry for the MOH and bridesmaids. Ya’ll better rest up now in the time being.

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Day 132: Carnage

Carnage w/ John C. Reilly, Jodie Foster, Kate Winslet & Christoper Waltz

If you haven’t seen the play, I highly recommend it. Carnage is a dual force. The movie implicitly shows the darker dynamics of marriage by showing the demise of two couples into pure chaos. What starts out to be an amicable attempt to get their sons to apologize, with the help of alcohol,  inevitably becomes a war of sexism and morale between two marriages.

What’s sad is that each side is relatively accurate about life, love and marriage. No one can really disagree but everyone can agree. Sometimes, we just purposely slay each other. We dig and dig to find some speckle of happiness over years and years of unhappiness. Sure, we’re all happy some of the time, but sometimes even the unhappiness seeps in a bit deeper. We’re all fucked. We’re even more fucked with the existence of alcohol in our systems. Here these two adults try to set primary example to their children, but are still relatively clueless themselves. As I get older, I only hope that I’m a bit wiser, but that notion is always fully defeated when I look at last night’s mistakes. I’m no walking hot mess, but I got a slew of fucked up shit that wouldn’t make anyone dream of unicorns and sunshine.

American couples need to see this movie, this may or may not decrease the annual visits to the therapist. Just saying.

Penelope Longstreet: I DON’T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR AND I DON’T WANT ONE!

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Day 130: Sweet November

Sweet November w/ Keanu Reeves & Charlize Theron

Have you started to see a movie that you knew was bad right when it started, but you couldn’t stop because by that time you were in too deep? Yeah, that’s what it was like watching this movie.

I think I was reeled in because it said that Keanu Reeves played an advertising executive. What ad executive has 7 different channels play all day in an attempt to find inspiration? Tell me, who? I get the workaholic routine, but really? And you would let some psycho bitch come into your life that easily? If some hobo was sitting on my Benz, chilling, she would for sure get a beat down. No questions asked.

I mean the movie in theory is pretty sweet. She wanted to change his life because her’s was ending. Sweet, right? It was a bit sad that she wanted to disappear completely so he wouldn’t see her die. But still, a bit more consideration should’ve been there. He loved after all. Kind’ve selfish if you really think about it.

It was a bit painful to watch, mostly because it seemed a bit contrived with a trite script. Oh well, can’t win them all.

 

Sara: What are you doing?
Nelson Moss: Buying redemption.
Sara: Redemption’s not for sale today.

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Day 124: The Wedding Singer

The Wedding Singer w/ Adam Sandler & Drew Barrymore

I don’t care how stupid Adam Sandler is most of the time, he’s the ultimate schmuck worth falling for.

The most note worthy piece of advice I’ve ever heard about love is to find someone who loves you more than you love them. What’s strange is that it seems like an open invitation to someone’s feeling being hurt, but in reality, it doesn’t. It’s a weird paradox, finding someone that loves you more so you don’t get hurt. But thinking about it conversely, would the other person feel like you love them more than they love you? Tricky.

BUT.

I love hard. I love fully. I am not one to hold back especially when I’m sure. A lot of it’s naivety, but a lot of it is because I believe in loving unconditionally. I don’t want to know that he loves me more than I love him.  Why must the glass always be half filled when we can share the damn pitcher?

It always gets me when Robbie sings to Julia.

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Day 122: Mystic Pizza

Mystic Pizza w/ Julia Roberts...and etc.

It’s Julia Roberts! Shocker!

I can’t help but relate with the sisters – to fall in love and get the hell out of a small town. Although, I wouldn’t consider where I live a small town, but small enough to see people from high school still. I often daydream the hell out of my future. Nowhere in my future does it say me being whisked away and living in San Jose. No thanks. My ubiquitous white fence is replaced with city lights and a window. The happy husband making the daily bread is replaced with me making my own bacon and possibly raising a family. My idea of the future doesn’t correlate with suburbia, not even in the slightest form. I’m not quite sure what made me not want that, but it somehow formed away.

Anyways, this movie made me have an incredible craving for pizza.

Bill: [to Jojo] I’m tellin you I LOVE YOU, and all you love is my *dick*! Do you know how that makes me feel?

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Day 118: Ira and Abby

Ira & Abby w/ Chris Messina & Jennifer Westfeldt

Psychology major studying to be a psychologist, albeit he has major issues and so does the woman he spontaneously decides to marry. Let’s not forget his parents are therapists as well. They rationalized their whim of a marriage because they figured everyone else who’s done it the right way ends in divorce anyways. Throughout the movie, we see different perspectives of the ultimate marriage. We see Ira’s parents, a marriage blossomed because of an unexpected pregnancy. His parents ultimately agreed that “you learn to love because you’re hinged together.” They married for Ira. Which to some extent seems to be the reason for the many marriages we see today. We this marriage and its juxtaposition to Abby’s parents’ marriage, a seemingly happy marriage. But of course, there’s a catch.

The idea and convention of marriage seems to continue to tarnish over time for me. I’m not doubting the belief that two people can stay in love for years on end, but I doubt the belief that marriage is going to keep that. We’re all groomed to think that the next logical step in our lives is to marry someone we love. But being married doesn’t solidify anything aside from having a great party. Can we start blaming ourselves that we’ve fallen into some hypocrisy of how things are supposed to be. Because the reality is nothing is what it’s supposed to be. Not then and not now. I often wonder about happily married couples. I’m sure there are some, but none that I can instantly look up to. I would venture even to say my parents’ marriage isn’t exactly what I interpret happiness to look like. Continue reading

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Day 117: Practical Magic

Practical Magic w/ Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman

This just proves that you don’t mess with women who have power, both in the literal and metaphorical sense. Yes, women sure can be crazy, but let’s be real, their instincts on many a man have been more true than wrong.

I used to think women’s instincts were just a fallacy. You know, like love. But, I’ve seen it more than once, including my own, when a woman’s gut instinct is spot on. It’s actually pretty scary. Just to know something isn’t right and within minutes prove that theory. My mom has it and I know I sure have it. But instincts are clearly different than assumptions. Let’s be clear on those distinctions. Assumptions all the time are just insecurities reflected through poorly made decisions.

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