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Day 141: Cinema Paradiso

Cinema Paradiso w/ Philippe Noiret & Salvatore Cascio

Absolutely hands down one of my favorite movies. There’s always a sense of nostalgia and sadness whenever I watch this film. It clearly details the many facets of passion, desire and love. It begins with a love affair with movies and a divine relationship flourished out of that same passion between Salvatore and Alfredo. Over time, we watch young Salvatore’s affair with movies grow – at first as an admirer then as a director. Yet through trysts of time, we also sadly watch the diminishing relationship with Salvatore and Alfred. It becomes a journey of relentless desire of love and freedom movies from both characters. The significant screen kiss allows us to breathe a bit through the sadness.

The attraction to something worth waiting for. THAT person. That one significant person that we are whole fully dedicated to justify. The longing that occurs is because of the potential, that maybe he’s that person. Sometimes I ponder if that’s silly to do. But sometimes, I’m just that hopeless. Hopelessly desiring the potential but never seeing beyond the obvious. But sometimes, you just need to stop yourself from that desire. It’s a lot of time, effort and feelings wasted for someone else who doesn’t see your potential. Relationships and love should never include a BUT. “You’re great but I can’t give you what you deserve.” Truthfully, you’ll always deserve more than what they can give you BUT the fact that he or she can’t even work toward making possibilities happen means he or she isn’t worth your time. Dating is hard as shit and lonely as fuck BUT there is a silver lining to it I’m sure. Life isn’t like in the movies, where the person who screws up realizes they did in mere moments, nor do they really regret it sorrowfully. While he maybe couldn’t see the potential, he will sooner or later (at least I hope with all the guys I’ve dated). Because at the end of day, you’re an amazing person with the amazing potential to do anything you set yourself up to do BY YOURSELF with the support of those who knew it from the get go, no buts about that.

In Cinema Paradiso, our love for Salvator and Alfredo is truly escalated when we see a gift from Alfredo to Salvatore – a reel of the love scenes that were cut from the films that were shown in the theater. It was a culmination of accomplishment, relief and truly a magical moment that was conceived of a beautiful relationship.

Alfredo: Living here day by day, you think it’s the center of the world. You believe nothing will ever change. Then you leave: a year, two years. When you come back, everything’s changed. The thread’s broken. What you came to find isn’t there. What was yours is gone. You have to go away for a long time… many years… before you can come back and find your people. The land where you were born. But now, no. It’s not possible. Right now you’re blinder than I am.
Salvatore: Who said that? Gary Cooper? James Stewart? Henry Fonda? Eh?
Alfredo: No, Toto. Nobody said it. This time it’s all me. Life isn’t like in the movies. Life… is much harder.

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Day 44: The Graduate

The Graduate w/ Dustin Hoffman

See the post about work and life balance. If both fails, attend to an affair. I heard it’s all the hype.

I love The Graduate for plenty of reasons – the music, the acting, the cinematography. It truly is a film that has become a capstone of a generation and a great cult classic. What’s most capturing for me about this film is the aloofness Benjamin has about the affair and the rest of his life. It’s a lot like everyone else who just graduated. We think we know, but we really don’t. It probably wouldn’t help anyone if you fell in love with a girl, who’s mom you’ve been boning. Not a good scenario whatsoever. Lesson learned: say no to cougars.

On a side note, I choose this film particularly because it shows San Francisco. Well, of course. You know why.

“Are you seducing me Mrs. Robinson?”

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Day 38: Away We Go

Away We Go/ Maya Rudolph & John Kransinski

I’ve been reading great posts such as this one on Thought Catalog and articles about the delicate balance of establishing one’s career and the fulfillment of a sustainable love life. Frankly, it sounds like there isn’t a balance. As a disenfranchised 21-year old, driven by crazy dreams to make it in the ad world, you can obviously tell I’m lacking in the love department (duh, this blog). I’m busy, sure. But I’m not that busy to not have a social life and a relationship. Putting aside obvious factors, such as San Jose’s meager pickings of dating selection, a constant ¬†setback from most of my involvements have been because I’m too involved, they’re not involved enough in what they want to do, or no desire to really push forward. I put my future career first, no questions asked. I’ve always chosen the option that made me better professionally versus one for love. I’m not cold or a bitch, so being friendly isn’t hard. I’m really just not winning. I continue to covet the relationship world but not want enough to lose any type of ambition. Nor do I think anyone should. We gain some and we lose some is the philosophy, but that doesn’t mean it’s fun. Continue reading

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