Day 26: Breaking Upwards

Breaking Upwards w/ Zoe Jones & Daryl Wein

Breaking Upwards is an indie rom-com set to the background of New York City following the eventual break up of 20-somethings. Ahhh, music to my ears. Obviously relatable. Obviously, snarky. We can focus on the detrimental factors to this relationship, but I’d like to really focus on the character Zoe. Here’s some context to the film, it’s actually the real story, more or less, of the leading couple when they decided to break up for a while. Zoe, played by Zoe Lister Jones, is overtly fucked up in the most narrowest sense. She’s all woman, hear me roar. She definitely played one too many Beyonce albums. Again, some background to her fuckery. Zoe’s mom is single and has difficulty pursuing stable relationships. Therefore, this in essence influenced Zoe’s relationships with men. Zoe’s unstable. Zoe’s unstable with men. Zoe’s unstable with her relationship to Daryl. Get it? Got it? Good.

You know the saying “she gets it from her mama?” I know you’re thinking ass. Nope. She did get it from her mama – the insecurities, the lack of faith. It’s hard not to even if you’re in a committed and caring relationship. I guess some parents don’t realize the transparency of their relationship with one another and how that transfers onto their children. Growing up in a very conservative Filipino family and culture, there was this stigma that existed. This stigma correlated with many ideals, especially marriage and love. Despite all the bullshit, women should stick to their husbands because that is what a happy home meant. Women were supposed to put aside their own personal issues to do what’s best for their “family.” Again, I’m not a grown up, and I have yet to experience such hardships, but I do know what I want and why I want it. Because even as children, we’re not stupid. I’ve seen enough fairy tales by the age of 8  to know that “happy” isn’t crying every night. That much I knew, that much I wanted to avoid. No matter how much I didn’t want to be a direct reflection of negativity, I see it occurring slowly but surely. That’s the thing about being a recovering romantic, you start to realize what made you so bitter in the first place.

“Not a marriage I’d want but I’m not sure I’d seen a marriage that I’d want.”

Tagged , , , , , , , ,

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: